We are trying to teach our kids to keep promises by modeling that behavior. We keep promises and show them how much they like when we keep promises. We also say "A rule for me is a rule for you".
If they make a promise and break it, we say "Oh, so the new rule is now 'we don't have to keep our promises'?" They seem to understand that if they get to break promises, I get to break my promises.
Neither of us want that. So I have been making my life very inconvenient lately to keep all of my promises, even to the point of having a music lesson at 11:00 PM just before an early plane flight. As I build a repertoire of kept promises, I will have a greater bounty to draw upon when remind my child of a promise.
I love it because I don't have to enforce my will on my kids. I just remind them of their will and my previous commitments to my own word. It sets a standard for myself that I already see benefiting my unconscious and my opinion of myself. We'll see how it goes.
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